A friend pointed me to this poignant essay by David Marcus in last week’s NY Times: A Father’s Acceptance: His Son Won’t Be Following His Ivy Footsteps.
At the time, I was a fellow at Harvard. Soon after, I did a brief teaching stint at Dartmouth’s Tuck School and there are a growing number of foster care agencies in Hampshire. I secretly hoped my son would go to one of those Ivy campuses. Maybe I saw that as the seal of approval for my parenting – my boy in Cambridge, or Hanover, or Providence.
Benjie demonstrated, by his nature, that he had other plans.