Ed Kuhlman is back from his trip to Greece and promptly violated my personal space yesterday with a hug in my morning neighborhood office space at GBM.
His wife Barbara warned me but alas, not even a fist bump could deter him.
When did hugs become compulsory? You meet someone for the first time, you shake her hand. You meet her a second time, and she expects a hug. Sometimes she expects the hug before the first meeting is over…
In standoffs, the person who wants a hug always wins. If you really want to avoid hugs, the only way is to carry around something large and unwieldy at all times… When did the good old-fashioned handshake become a sign of standoffishness, rather than a sign of "hello, I have just met you, and I am unarmed"?
I enthusiastically hug my wife and grown kids. I hug my relatives. I hug friends at those life events that are special: weddings, funerals, graduations, etc. For me, hugging has an intimacy to it that I want to retain. So when others treat it like a handshake, I cringe.